Stella’s got problems. She was the valedictorian in high school, headed for great things, and now things are off the rails.
Hi, Judge Josh! First of all, I love your blog.
I like you already.
I’m in a bit of a tight situation. My college is more or less running me bankrupt. I graduated valedictorian of my high school, so you would think the doors would have been wide open for me.
I would, yes. Congrats on the valedictorian thing! (Valedectorianship? Valedictorianism?) That’s one of those things, by the way, that will still impress people when you’re 50. I was a co-salutatorian, and somehow I still earn esteem points here and there for that one. 🙂
However, I suffer from an extreme depression and anxiety issue, so I only wound up applying to four colleges.
Well, four is plenty, really. You can only choose one (at a time) right?
Because I am paying my own way entirely, I picked the school that gave me the most money: Prescott College.
The school made a lot of promises they never fulfilled. Because they hardly ever grade anything, I lost my $10,000 scholarship due to not being physically able to submit my grades to the providers.
That’s strange. I don’t quite understand that. You don’t get a report of your grades at the end of each semester and your transcripts aren’t available to you?
They also revoked my on-campus work study position, saying that I was not the type of person they wanted interacting with their students and customers (I am a lot more conservative and traditional than most people here).
I have to be honest, Stella — my skepticism meter is going crazy right now. I’m guessing you’re leaving out some details here? I’ve just never heard of anyone losing their job because they’re conservative and traditional (although I’m not certain of what specifically you mean by that).
Did the depression/anxiety manifest in some inappropriate behavior toward customers? Did you end up lashing out at someone, not show up for work, etc.? I’m kinda left to my own devices here to figure out what happened, but it sounds like SOMETHING did. What was it?
I missed the transfer deadline for spring, and now I’m stuck in a school that hates me until at least fall.
Well, I definitely hope it’s not the case that the entire school hates you, although I totally believe that it may feel that way. Doesn’t seem much doubt that you hate IT, so if that’s the case, and you’ve also got no scholarships and no jobs, then yeah, I think getting the hell out of there one way or another is a solid idea.
The other major issue is that the school does not provide on-campus housing. We are expected to find our own places to stay within the community. With so many rental agencies having a “no student” policy, the only thing I found was an apartment that costs me $600/month. This was fine…until they took my job and my scholarships.
Well, I assume February rent is paid, right? So about three months left before you can finish the semester and then take off. You can grab a different job in town to earn rent money until then, even if it means Taco Bell. It’s better than bailing on a semester’s worth of college credits.
My father wants me to just drop out and come home before I can bleed any more red ink. However, I’ve already paid for spring semester, and I’d hate to think of them keeping all that money ($15,000) for nothing.
Yeah, I tend to side with you. I see your dad’s point, but then again, your dad loves you and knows you’re unhappy and probably wants to make it all better for you asap. I’d want to do the same for my daughter in that position.
But yeah — if you’re passing your classes, I’d hate to see you blow off the tuition money you’ve already spent and not get any credit for those.
My father makes a great point that this school is costing me far more than I could ever earn in scholarships, and the loans are continuing to surmount.
That’s true of any school, pretty much, except for those on full rides. 🙂
Do I drop out and move back home? Or stick it out until I can transfer?
Stick it out, then transfer.
Are there any ways to bring in money when the entire university seems to be working against you?
Yeah — go get a job, homegirl! Outside the university I mean. They’re out there. Many of them may suck, but they do pay, and you just need some extra cash right now. Unless you can score yourself a roommate at this late point in the semester, which is possible but might be tough.
Thanks for reading this, I know I can be long-winded.
You’re very welcome.
— What about you guys? Should she suck it up for the rest of the semester or hit the road back home? Let us know in the comments below.