Aly is a daring lass with a plan that might actually make a great screenplay, as long as there were a lot of screwball antics and coming-of-age challenges to overcome triumphantly.
My parents have decided that instead of allowing me to go off to college next year, they want me to attend a local, community college instead.
Gotcha. Well, you probably know that’s an idea I tend to endorse a lot around here for some people, depending on what their plans are.
I know that this isn’t the right path for me, and I am determined to go off to the college I’ve chosen.
Gotcha. I don’t really have any details of what you want to do or what you’re looking for in an education, so I can’t add much perspective there. I’ll take your word for it, though.
I already have a way of getting to said college, and my friends have said that they would help me, but I’m afraid of getting caught.
Hmm, I’m filling in a lot of blanks on my own here, so bare with me. I assume you mean that someone can physically transport you to the school, so I assume it’s far away?
When you talk about getting caught, you mean by your parents. If they think you’re close by at a local community college, and then you go far away, aren’t they going to find out anyway?
Another thing is trying to finance the school. If my parents let me go, then tuition will be covered, but if they don’t I’m practically broke, seeing as I haven’t been allowed to get a job, and I still don’t have one lined up.
OK. And we’re assuming that they’re not going to “let” you go (i.e., they’re not going to pay your tuition if you go).
Do you have any advice for this?
Sure — from what you’ve told me so far, it seems very unlikely that this plan will lead to anything good. Sounds like you’ve got the part about getting a ride out of town (or the area, or whatever), but after that, it’s kinda wide open.
If your folks aren’t going to pay at the school you want to escape, then that’s definitely a problem. Even if you get a lovely financial aid package, anything short of a full-ride is going to cost your family something. Your EFC (estimated family contribution) from your FAFSA has to come out of your pocket, and if you can’t pay, and Mom & Dad *won’t* pay…well, either you’re going to have to find somebody who will or you can’t go.
Is there any chance at all that you can can negotiate further with your parents and get them on board? Do they understand fully why the community college route is not for you? Can they afford to pay for the school you want to attend?
In a spot like this, it seems negotiation is your last, best hope. You can’t really show up on the doorstep of your first-choice school (you’ve at least been admitted, right?) with no money or plan to pay.
And if you take off by surprise and end up at the other school, your parents are probably going to feel pretty betrayed, and that might damage any further chances you have for them to *eventually* get on board with your plans.
Thanks in advance,
Sure. Sorry if I seem like a downer, but the current situation does seem ill-fated. I do wish you the best of luck, though, and I hope you’ll maybe fill us in on some of the details down in the comments section.
— Speaking of comments, what do you guys think? Stay the community college course or elope to …wherever? Let us know in the comments below.